Equating strength with your ability to destroy someone or something needs to become an obsolete concept.
I would love to say that it’s already obsolete, but we’re not quite there yet. Force is still a useful tool for bullies and despots, but in the wrong hands, it has the potential to destroy everything our ancestors and the living generations have built.
Force is a tool in the competition for scarce resources. We need tools for cooperation in order to achieve abundance for everyone.